FRIENDS & FAMILY

When you first begin your journey as a freelancer you can encounter situations that can break your heart.  I wrote this to help you stay on your path, and how to deal with your friends and family


I really wanted to touch on this to save you heartache. Once you decide to become a makeup artist several things happen:

  • Your schedule changes dramatically
  • Your language changes dramatically
  • Your income changes dramatically

When this shift comes into your life there will be folks who are just not comfortable with it. Your mother may think you will be poor and destitute. Your husband doesn’t understand why you must work on this project for free. Your friends can’t flow with your hours, and cannot understand why you just talked about the consistency of 4 different types of body lotions for an hour. With my family and friends, the question of how much money I made in the beginning would drive me to total frustration and to tears. They weren’t excited when I had just done the best shoot ever. They wanted to know how much that shoot paid. I don’t know why, but when I finally decided to step out on my own, and be self-employed this bought on barrage of invasive questions they never dared asked me when I was working in corporate America. I have never had so many people in my pocket before and it was too much to take.

I have never had so many people in my pocket  before it was too much to take

Now to their defense–I know it comes from concern, love and just plan trying to understand this business. After all, I just left corporate america, my benenfits and my salary behind to suddenly make no “real” money (I totally get that, I do) BUT dammmnnnn, must you really know how much the gig paid? AND why must I justify why I’m doing what I’ve chosen as a career path, every single time I mention my latest gig? I longed for the day they stopped asking me–or they stopped blowing off my latest victory with a– Well you didn’t make any real money how serious can this career be? kind-of-attitude.  I wanted them to come take the journey with me, only to realize they were incapable. I wanted people to marvel in my new found love. I wanted them to love it, because I loved it. I wanted them to keep up my spirits when I was down. BUT they were incapable, because what was needed was an understanding that they lacked, and I grew so tired of trying to explain.

keep your money to yourself

So my advice is–please keep your money to yourself. I made the mistake of thinking I would be rolling in the dough, due to reports on what folks like Kevyn Aucion made at the time. I thought if I made just 1/10th of what he did I would be good to go–WRONG!  I went around quoting income, ala Kevyn, but little did I know it would take me years to get that 1/10th.  Please know your income will most likely be very, very, very–one more, very, small in the beginning of your career and you will be working for free a lot “paying your dues”

Keep the talk about income to the only person that counts–a significant other you share bills. You may have to do this part time if your salary is extremely important to your households survival. People who are not in this business cannot wrap their brains around working for free, little pay for crazy hours, no medical benefits and definitely no pension. In the end it will just stress you out–and a stressed makeup artist isn’t good to anyone.

Now several years later,  after much hard work, many highs and some serious ass-kicking lows, I have finally made it to the point where my friends and family –(who doubted my decisions), are now proud of me and they have stopped asking me those dayum annoying questions. And yes, I do get to have dinner with the girls, when I can and I pay my bills.

So to you newbies out there, I understand where you are and I wish for you perseverance, patients, love, and a tenacious spirit.

Never give up, never stop. How will you ever see your dreams fulfilled.

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